My little cryptic comment probably was a little insensitive but I'm
sometimes surprised at the things some people want documented with
photographs. If you are a professional photographer or a friend that is
requested to do this kind of work you have to respect the wishes of the
family requesting the activity. It can get really awkward if one family
wants the photography and other family members do not. The photographer
should never be the center of attention but needs to stay in the background
and effectively be invisible.
I live in an area where the predominate religion is Mormon and their
funerals are long and tend to be morbid and sometimes very unpleasant,
especially if the deceased has not been a "good" church member. This has
soured me on funerals in general.
My wife died about 19 months ago and we had a very nice upbeat memorial
service for her. She had been mostly paralyzed (c6/c7 quad) for almost 40
years. She had many friends and there were almost 600 people at her service.
All the speakers talked about pleasant and funny things that had happened
over the years and it was an inspiring experience. The music was by her
sister-in-law who is a professional singer and it was beautiful. The prayer
was given by her brother rather than have a professional preacher drone on
and on. I didn't realize it but the funeral home makes a recording of all
the services and presents a copies on CD to the family afterward. I listened
to it once but is was difficult as I was still very emotional. The recording
was nice though for family members that could not be at the service. I
personally would not want to remember the sad faces of tearful people.
/jmac
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From: olympus-owner@xxxxxxxxxx [mailto:olympus-owner@xxxxxxxxxx]On
Behalf Of Steve Goss
Sent: Tuesday, January 23, 2007 10:48 PM
To: olympus@xxxxxxxxxx
Subject: [OM] Re: Unsung attribute
James-
Generally, yes. That's one of the reasons I didn't bother taking any
pictures at my mother in law's
funeral today.
It was a bit different at my son's funeral. We had the burial first (no
pictures or video), then
the family all ate lunch (with some candid and group pictures), and then the
funeral service was
videotaped. It was more precisely called a memorial service instead of
funeral service because
there was no casket. We have a dvd of the service, and my parents have a
copy also. I think I've
watched it once, but my wife and daughter have seen it a few more times. The
lady who did the video
also created a book using pictures of my son, stills from the video, and a
transcript of the
service. We have shown that to some other people show could not attend, and
to the musician, so he
could see himself on stage.
Part of the difference to is the tone of the service. At the funeral today
the music consisted of
two hymns accompanied by an organ. At my son's memorial service the
accompaniment was an acoustic
guitar, and included songs like <a
href="http://www.amazon.com/Almost-There-MercyMe/dp/B000062Y7I";>
I Can Only Imagine</a> and <a
href="http://www.amazon.com/Don-Censor-Me-Audio-Adrenaline/dp/B000005KUW";>Bi
g House</a>...
Thanks, Steve Goss, Dallas Tx usa
James N. McBride wrote:
> Yuk. I would much rather remember someone's life than their funeral.
/jmac
>
> Behalf Of iwert bernakiewicz
>
> Indeed, the E-1 is very silent. I was in the same situation in November.
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